Kinda curious to know what the actual situation is but it's personal and none of my business at all, and isn't something to discuss openly on a public forum either, so I'll have to let it go, Frozen style.
Post by CyberpunkCentral on Oct 21, 2023 10:23:05 GMT -6
Oysters are actully pretty damn good. ANYWAY, this isn't a situation where women are playing games per se. She is just being herself. However, it kinda is a red flag. I usually don't like talking about red flags because we all have red flags, but that's a BIG red flag. Men are kinda turned off by the fact that dating is expensive, but we have to put up with it because that is just fucking life. But taking advantage on the first date!? I wouldn't walk away. I would look at the price and maybe step back on a second date. But I'm guessing these guys are in their 30s or 40s. Yeah... men take dates VERY seriously when they are that old. They don't need to relive relationship bullshit again.
Sometimes this can be a catch 22, since people think that a marriage/relationship can't work if each person is always nice to each other, that arguments and conflict are what make a bond stronger, or that it's not true love if there's no fighting involved. Yet people also say that to love someone is to never hurt them or make them unhappy. There's a flaw to this.
But from my own experience, I have been with a mentally abusive woman, and can say without doubt, at least a truth that is true for myself if not for anyone else, that to truly love someone is to make them happy and in return they make you happy, no arguments or issues, and neither person should change or alter how they act or what they think in order to appease the other person. It should be a love for the person exactly as they are.